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Here, a frequent shopper tests her willpower with the ultimate 30-day challenge.

I love to shop. It’s a way for me to socialize with friends, relieve stress and just have fun. However, I've realized lately I shop a lot — at least once a week — and it's adding up.  

So, I implemented a 30-day shopping ban for the month of June, not only to test my willpower, but also to learn more about the motivation behind my behavior — and to see if I noticed a difference in my bank account.  

Before my month of no spending started, I established some ground rules. I would spend on groceries, restaurants, activities and gifts for others, but I was not going to shop for myself. I created a list on my phone called “Things I Want,” so I could keep track of all the items I was tempted to buy.  

After 30 days, here are the four most important things I learned about my purchasing patterns.  

1. I’m surrounded by shopping stimuli. 

I initially thought this experiment would be easy. I told myself I’d just avoid malls and I wouldn’t have a problem. I learned it’s not that simple. From Instagram shops and targeted ads in my Facebook feed, to email newsletters and digital coupons, I was being tempted every time I looked at my phone. While I wasn’t physically in a mall, I was still inadvertently window shopping.  

During my 30 days, I unsubscribed from five email newsletters and unfollowed at least three social media accounts. While I still subscribe to some, I want my shopping experiences to be intentional, and I’m making a conscious effort to avoid shopping stimuli.  

2. There’s a difference between 'want' and 'need.'

Once my bills are paid and I have some extra money for discretionary spending, my first impulse is to go shopping. I realized how easily I can convince myself that I need new black sandals for summer or a new swimsuit for an upcoming vacation.  

While I did not buy anything for myself in June, I made a list of all the things I felt I needed to buy come July. This included: 

  • Black sandals  
  • Swimsuit for Mexico 
  • Wallet 
  • Phone case 
  • Lululemon workout pants 
  • Jean jacket 
  • Black heels 

Do I actually need all of these things? Absolutely not. And this brings me to my next realization: Why I wanted them. 

3. Shopping makes me feel good. 

Retail therapy is a very real experience for me. Shopping makes me feel happy and excited. So I took some time to clearly define what was really behind my to-buy-in-July list.  

I wanted new shoes to feel more professional at work. I wanted a new workout outfit to motivate me to, well, work out more. And, I wanted a new phone case because mine was cracked. That analysis helped me decide what I should actually buy.  

I plan to continue this strategy. If I want something, I’ll write it down first and take some time before making a decision.  

4. I’m a sucker for a sale. 

Nothing feels quite as satisfying as knowing I scored a great deal. During my shopping hiatus, it was particularly hard for me not to buy something at a discount. "If I buy it now, I’ll save so much money!" I told myself. I said that a lot in June — which ended right in time for Fourth of July sales. But the new me doesn't get suckered into buying something I don't truly need.  

After 30 days, I had more money in my checking account but also learned four valuable lessons. And even though I’ve lifted the ban, I'm making my future shopping more intentional and less impulsive.